Jumping into Motherhood
There is no question we are constantly going through different transitions throughout life. This starts from day one. From transitioning to schedules, to new grades, schools, life events, and more; we are constantly entering new phases of life. Each stage can pose different challenges. Small or large, it takes us into a "new" era or environment that results in feelings of confusion, fear, or uncomfortableness. Let's take a look at one of those new transitions today: Motherhood.
Personally, this has been a new stage in my life that I have jumped into. There is no question this has been my favorite transition yet. From the baby snuggles, smiles, coos, and more; it has been a fun stage that has introduced me to unconditional love more than I have ever imagined. While this has been so exciting for me, there have been so many challenges. From expected challenges such as lack of sleep or "me" time, to unexpected challenges such as mom guilt and comparison, there have been ups and downs during the journey. Let's look at a way to manage some of these challenges.
Have you ever heard the phrase "comparison is the thief of joy"? This is so true, however, oftentimes we don't even realize we are doing it. We live in a world where everything is posted everywhere... and I mean everywhere. From commercials, to social media, to marketing, there is a sense of needing to be perfect and to do things a specific way. How exhausting is this? How can we compare to others when each situation is unique and different in and of itself? It is important to remember that the guilt, shame, and comparison that can come is often false and unwarranted. What works best for you is okay and what works best for others is okay too! It is important to remember that we are unique and every way possible to assist with muting the shame and guilt that can come with comparing to others.
On top of this, I have learned the concept of support more than ever before. Support from your spouse when it comes to roles. Support from family as it relates to needs both in and out of the home, and support from friends and peers in the community to better understand the newness in roles. People often say parenting takes a village and that is so true. It is okay to ask for help from others to assist with entering new stages comfortably.
Change and new is scary. Life can be challenging. But each change and transition can amount to beautiful new beginnings. Remember, each person is different, meaning, all needs are different. Let's utilize this to assist with gaining comfort in the discomfort of the new.
Written by: Jordan Allen
